What Kind of Friend are YOU? The 13 Types on Facebook
by David K. Israel

When it comes to parties, I tend to arrive late.
With Facebook, one of the centuries biggest
parties, I made no exception. To be completely
honest, I created an account many moons ago, but
only to play Scrabble with a friend back East. He
was my one and only friend. But when it came time
a couple months ago to create the How Did You
Know? fan page (have you joined yet?), I started
spending quality time on Facebook, and eventually
changed my fake Scrabble name to my real name,
added a photo to my profile, and fleshed out some of the info.

So I’m a month into the party now, and I’m
starting to see clear trends. Some friends fall
into category A, while others B. What about you
all? What kind of friend are you? Here’s the
category breakdown (and drop a comment if you think I’ve missed any):

A) The Overzealous Updater

This is the friend who can’t go half a day
without sharing What’s On His Mind. Honestly
people. We really don’t need to know that you’ve
just had your second shower of the day. For that
matter, we didn’t need to hear about the first one either.

B) The Link-bot

This is the friend who does nothing but share
links all day. Links to articles he’s read that
he thinks the whole world should be reading,
links to movie reviews, links to new games coming
on the market, links to his Twitter page where
he’s gone and posted 10 more links. There needs
to be a limit. Some links are good, especially
when they send people to this blog. But let’s
impose a 2-link-max rule per day, what do you say?

C) The Groupie

This is the friend who has joined more groups
than Marcia Brady did that one year in high
school when she was overcommitted and frazzled.
Asian Americans in Israel who Support Diplomacy with Iran? Really?

D) I Am My Kids

This is the friend who only uses Facebook to post
photos of the little ones, or updates that read:
“Tommy didn’t feel well today, so he stayed home
from school.” Might as well not even have your
own profile, just create one for the kid(s), no?

E) Spies (who used to) Like Us

This is the Ex who only friends you so s/he can
spy on you and make sure you have fewer friends
that s/he does, and that your new significant
other is less attractive than s/he was.


F) The Wanna-Be

This is the person who friends someone with the
great hope of becoming friends with that person
in real life, be it a minor celeb, or just
someone the Wanna-Be really admires from a slight distance.

G) The Two-facer

This is the friend who accepts your friend
request just to be polite, but then Hides your
updates immediately. Unfortunately, you have no idea who the two-facers are.

H) The Networker

This is the friend whose main purpose on Facebook
is to build a list he can tap when he needs to
for work/career. You know these friends because
they only message you with e-mails that read “So you still over at Viacom?”

I) The OverPoker

No need to explain this one, right?

J) The Get-A-Lifer

This is the hardcore friend who has nothing
better to do but subscribe and follow you via SMS.

K) The Attention Seeker*

This is the friend who posts status updates that
are purposely vague, and therefore beg for a
comment. Their status is all about getting you to
respond, getting attention, getting sympathy.
“Lori is scared, but hopes everything works out…”
[*sent to me by my friend Dawn, who is definitely an M... see below]

L) The Over Suggester

Just stop. Okay? Let me figure out who I want to
be friends with, okay? Honestly.

M) The Good Friend

This is the friend who mercifully doesn’t fit in
any of the above categories and is, hopefully,
just one of many normal, average facebookers
you’ve friended. Let’s hear it for the Good Friend!

{Honorable mention: The Foodie ­ this is the
friend who’s always posting updates with photos of plates of food}

{Favorite quote overheard when a friend of a
Friend got a new Friend on FB ­ “Ah man, I’m now friends with my dad… Jesus.”}

“Imagine all of you are hypnotized to believe there is a tiger in this room. In your fear you will try to escape it, to fight it, to protect yourselves from it, to placate it. But once the spell is broken, there is nothing to be done. And you are all radically changed. So understanding breaks the spell, the broken spell brings change..."

-by Rev. Anthony De Mello
http://www.demello.org

Power Over doesn't belong here.

Power With does.

Healing is Power With.  Reaching Out is Power With.

Some of you may recall my note to Rachel, my niece who turned 13 a couple years ago.  Here is my note to Nathaniel, my nephew, on the occasion of his 13th birthday next month.

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Nathaniel,

In the book "The Brothers Karamazov" by Fyodor Dostoyevsky, the relationship of three brothers is explored.  The first brother, Dmitri, is said to represent the body symbolically (he is a soldier).  Ivan, the second brother, a student at university, represents the mind of humanity.  The youngest brother, Alyosha, is a monk, so he represents the spirit or soul.  My words of wisdom to you are excerpts from the passage known as the Sermon by the Stone near the end of the book, where Alyosha speaks to his young charges on the occasion of the death of a classmate of theirs...

'...And whatever may befall us subsequently in life - even though we do not meet for twenty years hereafter - all the same let us remember how we buried the poor boy, the one at whom you formerly threw stones, do you remember, down there by the bridge? - but whom everyone came to love so later.  He was a wonderful boy, kind and brave boy, he had a sense of honour... Know then that there is nothing more lofty, nor more powerful, nor more healthy nor more useful later on in life than some good memory, and particularly one that has been borne from childhood, from one's parents' home.  Much is said to you about your education, but a beautiful sacred memory like that, one preserved from childhood, is possibly the very best education of all.'

'Let us, in the first place and above all, be kind, then honest, and then - let us never forget one another.  This I repeat again.  I give you my word, gentlemen, that I shall never forget a single one of you; each face that gazes on me now, this moment, I shall remember, even though it be for thirty years.  All of you, gentlemen, are dear to me from this day, all of you I shall enclose within my heart, as I ask you to enclose me within yours.'

Blessings, Nathaniel.  Live long and well.

With kindness, honesty, and memory,

Uncle Paul

You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

love what it loves.

Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain

are moving across the landscapes,

over the prairies and the deep trees,

the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,

are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,

the world offers itself to your imagination,

calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting --

over and over announcing your place

in the family of things.

This QaR was originally posted the day after my 46th birthday, my second out here in Arizona.

I asked my mom yesterday about this.  Here is the story.

My grandmother, whom we affectionately call Mimi, was attending dance class at a local school in Detroit, MI.  She was 20 years of age.  Her brother, my great uncle Gordon, was having a party on Saturday with some of his friends from the neighborhood.  As Mimi arrived home, she noticed the party was in progress.  So she went upstairs, changed out of her dance clothes, and joined the party.

A young man named Fred saw this pretty Irish girl and he started talking to her.  This conversation went on for quite a while.  Near the end of the party, he did something rather forward.  He asked her if he could drive her home, which was the custom of young men to demonstrate their interest in a young lady.  Mimi responded, "This is my home."  Fred was surprised since Gordon had never mentioned his sister to him.  They both started laughing.

Three years later, on a beautiful August afternoon, they became married.

To me, Enlightenment means 'oneness' with nothing left out or ignored/dismissed.

A couple One of my favorite Madonna videos.  Feelin' that way.  :-)




Darn YouTube police!  LOL

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PENITENCE

1

SINCE foolishness and sin
In my found origin
In all my lifetime, none
Through me to pleasure won.

I look for equity,
Which none obtains from me;
Against the world I cry,
The world's complaint am I.

2

Alas, alas! from em
Springs all inequity;
Ah woe! a thousand sighs
Through my injustice rise.

'For what thy hands have wrought:'
So have the Scriptures taught;
Then is my soul forlorn
Whereof all grief was born.

~The Rubaiyat of Jalal Al-Din Rumi
Select translations
into English Verse' by A.J. Arberry, 1949.

(April 18, 2009 note: I have removed a person's name from the title of this blog per that person's request)